I truly believe that everyone is born with a gift; finding it and the joy of perfecting is priceless!
Inner Balance . . .
Inner balance emulates calm, harmony, satisfaction, fulfillment, happiness, focus and inspiration laced with exquisite, which implies that when our center of emotional gravity is ingrained within us, where it belongs and not outside of us, we act toward people instead of reacting and be secured enough to tolerate dissent. I believe among other things, when the inherently flawed nature of human thinking left unchecked, ego in a form of [FEAR} intellectual pride would get in the way of entertaining opposing viewpoints and people would eventually lose the knack of civil compromise.
On the other hand, self-disciplined thinking which attempts to reason at the highest level of quality in a fair-minded way leverages us not to be afraid, but be genuinely sure of ourselves, which pacifies our inner-chatter to listen to dissents, look for points of agreement and compromise to get things done. If our self-worth is also not tied up with people liking us, we might turn their criticism to learning opportunity.
Self-control or Self-mastery (እራስን መግዛት ወይስ እራስን መቆጣጠር)
Self-control without self-awareness (discerning the thought patterns) is an up-hill battle managing one emotions, habits and behaviors etc. On the other hand, learning to think right (by analyzing, evaluating and reconstructing one thinking patterns and change it by a conscious act of will) would set one to self-mastery (እራስን መግዛት), which surpasses self-control (እራስን መቆጣጠር). While self-control tends to consequences like emotions, habits and behaviors etc. self-mastery tends to the cause of the consequences, which has the ultimate power to change the mindset by pinpointing the internal thought processes that guide the emotions, habits, and behaviors etc.
A mindset hinges on assuming any discomfort of life as a threat will deter us from examining the situation at hand calmly ; missing out on a wisdom that life has to offer. A wisdom of personal knowledge in embracing challenges of life as they are; redirect the fear rather than opposing fear. In turn this will help our sense of fear to align with our sense of safely to work for us instead of against us.
Winning or Losing . . .
Not to sound too philosophical, but perceiving winning or losing as the two end-sides of a stick that it's a necessary and an inevitable way of life and also nature runs and expands in contrasts might alleviate the unnecessarily negative emotion of losing as well as the big-head syndrome of winning. Things work well in balance.
Being mad at someone and throwing tantrum?
And we think it was all the other person’ fault (poor husband, wife or your partner whatever you call that significant other); always think this.
How come that someone has that much power to ruffle my feathers without my permission?
In a sense nothing gets to you unless you allowed it.
No, you didn’t hear me say - to leave that someone, but to change your pattern of thinking.
Find your happiness inside of you, a reservoir of all goodness' instead of chasing your happiness somewhere else, which you don’t have any control what so ever.
Words – What we say . . .
A magnificent human predicament that "We see the world not as it is, but as we are".
At times WORDS aggravate some, while at the same time conciliate others, because we hear in conditionality toward preconceived ideas; a reminder not to take things personal.
In an attempt to get the attention of others, sometimes we find ourselves at a loss of words, which only refer to more words.
At times WORDS sound like empty or even aggravate when we're not in the vicinity of knowing. Words only conform what we already knew.
Let Your Kingdom Come . . .
We pray that let your kingdom come and your will be done here on earth, the same as in heaven. But do we know that the Kingdom of God is within us and not somewhere else? Kingdom living is not merely living the good life filled with good deeds, but righteousness, peace, and joy in the Holy Spirit. When we embrace the concept that our salvation is more about who we are than what we do, we would rest in the Lord’s Righteousness, Love, Peace and Joy. The rationale that acquiring material possessions that we could gathers in quantity and quality; that the harder we work, the more we would have and the greater would be the testimony of God's goodness and favor in our life is not in line with kingdom teachings of Jesus.
Life is Not Supposed to be Complicated . . .
When we understand the teachings of Jesus and live our life by following the Wisdom of God reside in us and also commune with us, we would know that there no place for zero-sum mentality - 'for every gain there is a loss'. Since we're running our own race and no competition is involved, the mindset that hinges on the notion that 'there must be one winner and one loser' is not in sync with "The Abundant Life or Kingdom Living" that Jesus thought.
Although it’s notable to be hardworking, -‘whoever does not work should not eat’ - trying to quench our trust of righteousness, peace, love and joy with all sort of things like fame, fortune, perfectionism and achievement is a predicament. Because the works of each person will be tested by fire and the fire reveal the character and the worth of the work each one has done. 1 cor. 3:13.
As a final note . . .
In this passing world, few things are total truth carved in stone. We learn as we go and there is always more to learn. What we believe or know today may change in time. The information we haven't understood at some point makes sense later on and will be key information. What’s more, I believe and know without a shadow of a doubt that the "Abundant Life or Kingdom Life" the Lord promised is attainable, while we are still here on this planet called Earth, which is more about being than doing. When we embrace the concept that our salvation is more about who we are than what we do, it wouldn't be a burden to live life accordingly.
Jesus’ words and offer of the “Abundant Life or the Kingdom Life” are well over 2,000 years old. Yet even in today’s fast-moving society, His Word is relevant to the 21st century as He offers us wisdom, which has the power to transform our lives.
Butter and beef are not the enemy!